Take a moment out of your day to read this. I pray every morning that my eyes and heart will be open to opportunities to show compassion to others. Even in the smallest of ways. A smile to a stranger. Patience even when in a rush. Making someone laugh. Making someone feel beautiful and strong. Somedays I fail miserably but I always wake up the next day vowing to try my best to touch the lives of those I cross paths with that day. To somehow impact their life in a positive way. All my life I have felt a calling to help people, to inspire them, to make them smile, to make them feel good and to basically make their day better. I just used to think I had to do something huge to do that, like go on a missions trip or volunteer for a huge non profit event. (don't get me wrong, I still want to do those things) But I realized I didn't have to wait for those things to happen to touch the lives of those around me. That one small act of compassion and kindness could have the same ripple effect of a grand gesture or event. So take that first step. Today. Don't ignore that feeling inside to stop and help that person, or show patience and understanding to someone in a less than perfect situation. Or just smile and tell a complete stranger how wonderful they look today. Just do something. : )
It’s sometimes hard to sympathize with your spouse, much less the cashier who is fumbling with your change. But that’s compassion—caring about another’s suffering and trying to help (even if that means just waiting patiently). Experts, including the vice president of a hospice organization and a prison minister, show how a little love goes a long way.
John Mastrojohn: Lighten a LoadI’ve seen how simple things make such a difference for family caregivers who never get a break: a neighbor going to the grocery store for them or a local teenager shoveling the snow. One hospice volunteer was a beautician, and she would do hair, makeup, and nails for the patients and their families. Folks appreciated it so much. They would say, “I don’t have time to go out of the house to do this.” I remember one time I had just picked up some clothes at the dry cleaner when it started pouring rain. Everything was going to get soaked on my way back to the car, so I stood there, hoping the storm would pass. A stranger came up to me, opened her umbrella, and said, “Can I help you get to your car?” It was a small thing, but I thought, I now have to pay that forward.
John Mastrojohn is the executive vice president of the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization. He lives in Alexandria, Virginia.
Helen Riess: Don’t Judge—HugIf someone is upset or acting unusual, consider why before you judge or get annoyed. There’s probably a backstory that would make you react differently. And when someone does share, you don’t have to have a perfect answer. You can just say, “I don’t know what to say, but I’m here for you.” Don’t forget the power of touch, especially for children, who thrive on feeling accepted as whole people. Give hugs and pats on the head or a squeeze of the hand. For a stranger who seems open to it, the area between the shoulder and the elbow is considered the safe zone for touching. And you can always simply say, “I want the best for you.”
Helen Riess, M.D., is an associate professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and the founder of Empathetics, a company that makes Web-based empathy-training e-learning products. She lives in Wayland, Massachusetts.
Jim Liske: See Yourself in ThemFor the first 18 years that I was a pastor, I was ignorant of those who committed crimes. I just didn’t see them, nor was I aware of their families. Then my nephew went to prison, and suddenly I had empathy. The main difference between those behind bars and everyone else is they’ve been caught. A lot of people have texted while driving and were lucky enough not to have had an accident. We incarcerate many people for addiction, not crime, and we all have an addiction. I’m a workaholic. Once we find our empathy, it’s easier to act—helping children whose parents go to prison or lobbying for mental-health programs. Look for what’s broken and think about how you can fix it.
Jim Liske is the president and CEO of Prison Fellowship ministries. He lives in Holland, Michigan.
Melinda Gates: Let Your Heart BreakThe world is full of what seem like intractable problems. Often we let that paralyze us. Instead, let it spur you to action. There are some people in the world that we can’t help, but there are so many more that we can. So when you see a mother and her children suffering in another part of the world, don’t look away. Look right at them. Let them break your heart, then let your empathy and your talents help you make a difference in the lives of others. Whether you volunteer every week or just a few times a year, your time and unique skills are invaluable.
Melinda Gates is the cochair of the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation. She lives in Seattle.
Carrie Cole: Respond, AlwaysCompassion means you can see the other person’s side, and it’s especially important in your marriage or relationship. Any time your partner is hurting and speaks out, he wants a connection with you. If he didn’t, he would keep the thought to himself. Stop and acknowledge him and comment in a positive way—in a tone of voice that sounds sincere, not placating. It can be hard when you’re feeling annoyed, so try to think about the wonderful things that made you fall in love with him.
Carrie Cole is a master-certified Gottman relationship therapist and the co-owner of the Center for Relationship Wellness, in Houston. She lives in Houston.
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Public Functionary founder Tricia Khutoretsky hosted the event once again this season, introducing all three levels of the packed Orchestra Hall lobby to the Ignite models (some of whom were making their runway debut), the designers, artists, and musicians including Greg Grease, Proper T, and DJ Just Nine.
For the first time, Envision also invited a DJ to collaborate with the designers on a customized set of remixes for the runway show. Monsieur Adi, one of Beyoncé's tour DJs. The perfect pairing for each of the designers.
There’s a lot of people in Minneapolis that create. There’s not necessarily a lot of people that stick with organizing something, and for every artist that we have… we need the people that are willing to bring them together and help them make something beyond their art. That producer role is really important. Keep organizing ways to showcase artists!
Hair | Haus Salon
Makeup | Kristine Loehrer (Key)
Styling | Amy Shetler (Key), Paige Frandsen (Assist)